Relationship Try This - Nice Guys

I'm probably not the best person to seek relationship advices from because my views are skewed, and I'm kinda messed up myself. Nonetheless, I get into discussions about boyfriends with some of my girlfriends and acquaintances, and witness people's habits of getting themselves into bad relationships. (I'm using bad boyfriends and complaining girlfriends because it's more common whether I like it or not.)

The common complaints are usually along the lines of: he treats me like crap; he doesn't love me enough; he always takes and never give. Most of the time, my friends are right, the guys they are dating are assholes. Though after a while I find myself asking, "Have you considered dating a nice guy for a change?"

... They pause, not taking the time to think about why they don't date a nice guy, and why they are attracted to guys that will step on them. They are taking the time to come up with a response that sounds good enough to shut me up.

Well, we all know that's not going to happen, so here is my 2 cents.

I guess I can see the appeal of a badboy type of guy. They have that "whatever" attitude that makes women want to conquer, so they feel they are one of a kind, and have achieved something that no one else can. Newsflash time: IT AIN'T GONNA HAPPEN. The more badboy a man is, the more times women have had the same silly thought cross their heads, and tried, and failed. That's how boys became badboys in the first place.

Now we've settled that, let's look at the nice guys. Contrary to popular beliefs that they are not good looking, there are plenty of them that look good, even hot. It really isn't that miraculous. They might have had good parents and grew up well adjusted (yes, that is still possible this day and age). They might have been fat at one point, and developed a personality, then started working out. They might have been a late bloomer. They might have had zits at one point. A whole plethora of reasons. Again, not that miraculous.

If you are not one of us shallow people, or if you are a liar, and you say looks aren't that important to you. Even better, there are a lot of ugly nice guys too, just like there are a lot of ugly badboy guys.

Nice guys are also easy to find. They are pretty much everywhere. The guy that kept the door open when you are both entering/exiting a building; The guy that helped you pick up your stuff when you tripped; The guy that made an effort to dress up and took you to dinner and a movie. Chances are there are at least 2 nice straight guys around you that like like you, but you see them as friends. What about the guy that you talk to when your boyfriend treats you bad? I bet he likes you.

In any case, let's get to the meat of the story: the benefits of having a nice guy around. They will do things for you that include:
- Carry your stuff
- Drive you places
- Buy you things
- Talk and listen to you like you are important
- Take care of you when you are sick
- Stand up for you when you need it
- Support and trust you
- Look at you with a sparkle in their eyes

And that's just the tip of the iceburg. You multiply everything in that list to a daily basis, you are set like a queen. So I ask you ladies, why? Why put yourself into that position? Why waste your youth on people that treat you in a way that you don't want to be treated?

Unless of course, that's the way you like it. In that case, don't complain about it, and just woman up and take it.